How to look at marriage in a new light
Under the Microscope Men’s Mental Health: Episode 4 Examines Marriage – Tradition, Change, and Controversy
In Episode 4 of “Under the Microscope,” Dr. Riaad Moosa, a comedian and qualified doctor, delves into the intricate topic of marriage in South Africa. With his unique blend of humour and credibility, Dr. Moosa explores the evolving landscape of marriage, touching on everything from traditional customs to modern legal rights. This episode invites viewers to rethink the institution of marriage in a rapidly changing society.
The Complexities of Marriage in South Africa
Dr. Moosa begins by examining the diverse forms of marriage recognized in South Africa, from the practice of polygamy under indigenous law to the legal right to same-sex marriage, thanks to the country’s progressive constitution. He doesn’t shy away from discussing the darker aspects of marriage in the region, such as the illegal practice of Ukuthwala, a form of child marriage that is often mistakenly seen as tradition but is, in reality, a form of child abuse and rape. The episode also touches on the tradition of Lobola, where the groom’s family pays a bride price in cattle or money. This tradition, while deeply rooted in African culture, has sparked debate online about its relevance today, with some questioning whether it should be reformed or if women could even pay their own Lobola.
Challenging Societal Norms and Rethinking Gender Roles
As societal norms evolve, Dr. Moosa encourages viewers to reconsider the role of marriage and whether it still serves its original purpose. With marriage rates declining and cohabitation on the rise, the episode asks tough questions about the relevance of marriage in contemporary society. Dr. Moosa probes into the traditional roles assigned to each gender within marriage, urging viewers to reflect on whether these roles are still necessary or if they need to be redefined in light of modern values.
Sparking Dialogue, Social Change, and Gender Equality
This episode is more than just an exploration of marriage; it’s a catalyst for conversation and social change. By blending humour with hard-hitting truths, Dr. Moosa opens the door to discussions that might otherwise be too uncomfortable to have. He emphasises the link between rethinking gender roles in marriage and breaking the cycle of violence. By promoting gender equality within the marriage—where women are seen as equals rather than just “wives” responsible for cooking, cleaning, and childcare—we can reduce gender-based violence. When both partners share responsibilities and respect each other as equals, it helps foster a healthier, more balanced relationship that contributes to a more equitable society overall.
